My son may only be 5 right now, but as a mother, I know how short on time I am with his childhood. Today I am going to share my open letter to my son with you. Feel free to amend it to your child and share it with them on their 18th birthday.
Here it is. My sweet sweet son. You’re officially a man. All grown up now, where has the time gone?As I write this letter, it seems like just yesterday I was trying to get you to come out, and now I can’t stop the clock. Most of me is sad, but part of me is so proud. Proud of the loving young man you’ve become. If I’ve taught you anything, I’m sure it’s how to love.
From the moment I found out you were coming, I knew you would be special. What I was not prepared for was how much I would simply and wholly adore you. And I so do. I love that gentle manner you carry. I love your willingness to help. I love that you didn’t lose your sense of curiosity. Please hold on to that.
I need to stress to you that simply put, life sucks. Remember all those times growing up that you got into trouble for something so minor? That was all to prepare you for life out of mama’s house. I would ask you to never leave my side, but I know how selfish that would be. I’ve seen you struggle, so I know that you are made of the stuff that survivors are made of.
I just have a few tips to help you keep your way.
#1 Pay your bills. Sounds simple I know. But you honestly have no idea how this one thing gets overlooked by young folks your age. So pay them and you will be ok.
#2 Love yourself enough to say no. If you’re anything like me, (and my son, you are) saying no is one of your greatest challenges. But saying no doesn’t have to be a bad thing. If you can’t (or just as important, don’t want to) do something, just say it. The truth is, you will never be able to make everyone happy. So, with that said, make sure you are happy.
#3 Fall in love… with lots of THINGS. Love doesn’t just pertain to people. You can love places and things too. Make sure you have loved as many things as you can.
#4 Be attentive. This is tricky so I will try to be clear. Whatever you are doing, make sure it has all of your attention. Because when you do, opportunities will follow.
#5 Fall in love… this time with a person. Whoever you choose, please know will never be good enough. But because I believe in love and marriage, I believe you will pick wisely.And when you start a family, make sure your son see’s you love his momma.
#6 Remember where you came from. I have no doubt that you are going g to be something big. But you must stay humble. You must remember every struggle you’ve endured and watched me and daddy go through. I promise, it sounds trivial and silly, but you will be a better man for it.
As I’ve tried to remind you every day of your life, you are a good boy. And you have touched so many with that silly smile and old soul. Please please hold on to that, son. And remember, I love you so so much.
Always and forever,