And just like that, July is here! Can you believe that we are well into summer as of today? But with the new month, also gives me time to celebrate another rocking Super Mom! This time, we meet Laurie. She tells me that she believes that all moms are super moms, and she is just trying to do the best she can. I love the fact that Laurie is not trying to be someone she is not. So this month’s Super Mom post is called:
Skincare, Self-care, and Super Mom Care
Let me introduce you to my friends, can you tell us who you are and what you do for a living?
Hi, my name is Laurie. I’m a forty-something mom of one 4 yr old boy named John. I love coffee and have a passion for skincare! I was working in corporate America as an HR Director for many years, but after my mom’s passing, last year decided to leave that world and focus on taking care of my family.
I am so glad to have you here Laurie. Can you tell me what a normal day for you looks like?
What I love about being home is the freedom to vary my schedule as I need to, but I still like to maintain a basic structure. I get up around the same time and make my son breakfast. Then I take care of any errands/household chores/appointments that are scheduled that day. My son goes to PreK in the afternoon, so after I get him off to school is when I focus on taking care of things for my blog. Then I get my son off the bus and shuttle him to whatever after school activity is going on that day.
Being a Super Mom often means balancing time, care to share with us how you get things done?
I consider myself a very organized person, so I rely heavily on a daily planner and schedule time to complete the items that I need to do. It keeps me focused and holds me accountable. Being a mom, I’ve also gotten really good at quickly executing a “Plan B” when last minute things change my schedule, so that we can still get things done, even if it’s not how I originally planned!
Speaking of backup plans, how do you deal with a wrench being thrown in and destroying your plans?
I think the past year of my life has been a result of an unexpected event in my life. What I’ve done and what I think is important when unexpected things happen is to have faith that things happen for a reason, even if it is unclear at the time why things are happening. I consider myself an optimist, so even in the darkest of times, I look for the silver lining. You need to focus on moving forward. Right now, I am so fortunate to be able to spend more time with my son and start doing something that really follows a passion of mine.
So tell us, what is your most effective way to get things done when you are feeling overwhelmed?
What I try to do, especially when I am feeling overwhelmed, is to break things down into smaller, manageable tasks and make a to-do list in my planner. Then all I need to focus on is to “work the plan,” and it becomes much easier to get it all done. I spent the past year getting my mom’s house ready to sell and broke things down into small tasks, assigned myself deadlines and that’s basically how I was able to get it all done and taken care of.
Have you always wanted to be a mom?
Yes, I absolutely have! What makes me even more grateful for the opportunity to be John’s mom is because it was such a long journey to conceive him! I had two miscarriages before getting pregnant with John, so for a time, I feared that having a child might not happen for me. I am so grateful to have him in my life!
As of today, what is your greatest accomplishment?
Having my son is by far the greatest accomplishment. I am proud of what I have done professionally, but seeing John grow into the little person he is and being a strong influence to shape that is the most challenging, but also more rewarding than any other achievement I have made.
Have you ever gotten unsolicited advice that was so outlandish you had no response? What was it?
This may seem not very outlandish to some people, but back when my husband and I were shopping for our first house and trying to sell our condo, our realtor suggested we sell the condo first and then move in with our parents while we shopped so we could “move quickly” on any house we saw that we loved. To me, that was ridiculous and not something I was ready to entertain seriously.
For this question I want you to tell me who you would trade places with, living or not, for the day. Who would that be?
I think it would be interesting to be Kate Middleton for the day. To marry into such a position with such poise and grace is admirable; I would be interested in understanding how she does that and balances her public persona with her role as wife and mother.
Everyone has a favorite quote or words to live by. What are yours?
Carpe diem. Seize the day. Again, this quote just reiterates my feeling that life is so short and we need to really appreciate the daily little moments that bring us joy.
How do you decompress after a long hard day? What does your “Me” time look like?
I like to take an hour or so after my son is asleep and either watch a favorite TV show or read a good book. These are luxuries I took for granted before getting married and being a mom so it’s nice to unwind doing these things. I also religiously get a facial once a month – I’m obsessed!
Well, do share what you have been reading!
I know I am a little late to the party on this, but lately, I’ve been reading VC Andrews and the “Flowers In the Attic” series. There are like 6 books and I’m on the third one. I also read another of her series, “The Mirror Sisters” that was really good. Her books all have an interesting psychological spin to them which I enjoy!
Do you have any words of wisdom for my friends?
I know it may sound cliché, but life is really so short, and it’s important to really try to be connected to your present moment and just enjoy it, instead of always focusing on where we want to be in the future or what we wished had happened in the past. Also, it’s not selfish to take care of yourself. As moms, and as women, we all put everyone else’s needs ahead of our own, and sometimes our own well-being suffers as a result. How can we be there for the ones we love if we aren’t taking care of ourselves? That’s what really inspired my blog name, A Spa Day Everyday – it’s really about taking care of ourselves so we can enjoy life to the fullest and be with those we love!
Is there anything else you want to say to the other BAD ASS super moms such as you?
Remember that there is nothing wrong with asking for help. Use your support system and give support to your loved ones and friends when they need it. With that foundation in place, there really is nothing that we can’t accomplish!
Laurie has been so fun to work with. She is a real mom who is just trying to get by and do the best she can. I admire those who can stand up and say, “I am not perfect.” Because at the end of the day, I bet that her son John would disagree. Laurie is a normal mom, and to that, I salute her.
Are you a super mom? Do other women always compliment you in the way you are holding your family together? Or, maybe you know a super mom? She will be the lady who rolls with the things that are thrown at her, much like Laurie. If you are or know this mom, I would love to talk. Because motherhood is tough and I would love to pick her brain and share her secrets with the other moms who feel like failures.
Until next time…
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