Now that the craze of the holidays is behind us for the time being, I would like to warmly welcome the next Super Mom to the table. This mom has been thru a lot in the last year and is ready to open up about what its like to hold down the fort after a separation. From relearning how to be independent to reminding herself of her own personal worth, Super Mom Kelly’s story will hit you, even if you have never been in her shoes. I give you Super Mom Kelly.
Let’s jump right in and get ta gettin, shall we? Can you kindly introduce yourself to my friends?
Hey! I’m Kelly, a 30 something mom of two boys ages 7 and 10. I am an office manager and event coordinator at a childcare company and teach Zumba Kids when I have the time. Oh, and I just started a blog called Living A Creative World. I am really excited about that new adventure!
Which job do you prefer and why? How long have worked with children?
I have been an office manager/ event planner for a few years now, I am an Early Childhood Educator too so I enjoy still being in the field but not on the floor anymore, it’s just too long of a day when you come home to your own babies at the end of the day. I love the creative part of graphic marketing and event planning in that workplace, but my dream would be to grow my blog by sharing my passion for creativity and have that as my steady income while giving more opportunity and freedom of time to be able to teach Zumba Kids too, which is also a significant passion of mine, (outside of raising my boys of course.) 🙂
What is the biggest challenge or struggle you have faced since becoming a mom?
Last year, I went through a separation, so it was figuring out how to do everything without a partner in the house to help. If I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done kinda thing, i.e laundry, dinner, groceries, everything.
I absolutely love being an engaged and ‘present’ mom, this has been difficult at times when I am just beyond exhausted or stressed and want to just go to bed. Sometimes I feel I am here in body but not in mind and I struggle with that, it doesn’t come naturally to just let go of the outside world for a time and focus on the two that are my world. At times I have needed to make the choice, purposely change my state of mind to be truly ‘here’ (not an easy thing to do), because I feel guilty (the worst feeling for moms, am I right?), and then other times it’s the smallest gestures from one of the boys, like giving me a kiss and an ‘I love you mama’ to bring it all back into perspective when I am feeling not good enough as a mom. It reminds me that although I may not be perfect (Not. Even. Close.) but… I am enough.
I really understand that last bit. And that leads me to my next question; life, as you know often, does not line up the way we thought it would. How do you deal when things like this happen?
My priority is the boys and my health on every level. If I’m not healthy then I can’t care for them the way I want to and need to. I spend as much time with them as I possibly can, engaged in the things they are in to (whether it’s tv shows or video games, I am with them and joining in) and showing how much I love being with them, because one day they will be grown and cuddling on the couch for hours just won’t be an option anymore
I couldn’t agree more. Speaking of T.V, what are you and the boys currently binge watching?
Sometimes, you have to step away from the boys and take care of just you. What is your YOU time?
Crafting, playing the ukulele, resting with my kids and watching our shows together.
To date, and aside from your boys, what is your biggest accomplishment?
Over this last year, purchasing a house, maintaining life for me and the boys. Keeping them in a place of being settled and secure as a priority during this time.
Do you have any advice for other super moms who may be dealing with what you have been thru?
There may be moments where you will feel lost and alone and don’t know what to do or how to cope, even if you know this path was the healthiest choice for you. Moments where you break down in tears of sheer exhaustion. But? You’ve got this. There will be light and inner restoration. Soon enough there will be more little ‘knowing’ smiles and inner empowerment because you did something you never thought you could, and there will be peace and joy because you went into the battle, you fought hard and you won baby! It doesn’t mean there won’t be more hard days ahead, but you are a warrior and you will overcome.
Let no one tell you that you made the wrong choice, that you can’t do this.. they do not know your journey and you are not living for them.
Your words are powerful, Kelly. Can you tell us your favorite quote or the words that resonate with your soul?
Be still and know.
And this question is my favorite because of the answers that very so much. If you could trade places with anyone, living or not, who would that be?
This I don’t know, it’s difficult to imagine ever wanting to be in a life that wasn’t mine.
Kelly’s story is one like many of us. She has had to readjust and keep moving in order to give her boys a wonderful life. I have really enjoyed getting to know Kelly and sharing her story.
If this story has inspired you to want to share your story, I would love to be the one who writes it. I am currently looking for women who rock the motherhood game, no matter what walk of life she may hail from. If that mom is you, or perhaps someone you know, please contact me using the little teal contact me button to your left. I will personally respond to every inquiry. Alternatively, you could sign up and just jump right in with the questions and email me when you are done! Or comment below and we can chat!
If you like this, please consider reading the entire Super Mom’s Collection!